Dying to self is dying to whatever sin draws your attention. It is not isolating. It is self-control. It is not cultish. It is revealing the true you, you are meant to become.
There will be triggers along the road of life that try to pull you away from Holy Spirit into the sins you desire at any given moment. There will be distractions, maybe family members or even the people you hang out with that cause you to fail. But remember everything in life takes practice to recognize the triggers.
For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin. Romans 6:6
Dying to self is to change. It is not to keep repeating a pattern of the same sin, then ask for forgiveness, then repeat the sin over and over. If you are struggling with this ask Jesus for help, pray, read the Word asking for clarity and truth.
Holy Spirit within will guide you, warn you, help you, and send people into your path to help you. Dying to self means revealing the real you in God’s eyes and allowing Holy to help you stay the course into eternity. It’s your choice.