Words are a dime a dozen. They are thrown around as empty excuses, used as hurtful swords, and sweetly whispered as expressions of love. Words can evoke feelings and emotions in a positive or negative way, however, words without the actions to follow up are meaningless.
If forgiveness was strictly a feeling it would be easy to dole it out at every turn then move on with life. However, forgiveness is an action word that emotions and feelings accompany. The commitment comes through continuous growth toward the sincere mindset of wanting to forgive. Commitment is work. It takes prayers, intent, seeking Truths in the Word, asking for help, understanding a bigger picture, thoroughly getting self out of the way, and letting Holy Spirit orchestrate the direction of your heart. It takes time, sometimes years, to reach a point that you can forgive without any attached emotions of anger, resentment, hurt, or grief. It is then you realize you are choosing to say it and mean it deep within, even to yourself. This is when the true meaning of mercy and grace flood your soul.
You are set free from the baggage of betrayal, victim mentality, and self seeking retribution, and you set the offender free by your commitment and choice to seek meaning greater than yourself. Forgiveness is an act of great love not just a feel good word, and it begins with your choice to commit to a lifetime of seeing the bigger picture.
“Jesus said to Peter, “Follow me!” Peter turned and the disciple whom Jesus (also) loved was following them. When Peter saw him, he asked Jesus, “What about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” John 21:20-22
Jesus’ response spoke volumes about a bigger picture and deeper meaning. First of all, it pointed out Peter’s interest in everyone else’s business when Jesus clearly needed him to just focus on his work of following Him. Secondly, at this time, Jesus had forgiven his betrayer, Judas and the doubter, Thomas. He had even forgiven Peter for denying Him 3 times after His crucifixion and restored him to lead a life of ministry. And, thirdly, Jesus never said anybody in this scenario would die. The lesson here is when we forgive we are forgiven and live eternally in heaven. The ability to forgive sometimes takes a lifetime of hard learned lessons.
Today, be committed to learning how to be free through forgiveness.